Happy holiday boundary setting!
The holidays are here! Yay…well maybe not when you think about that visit to see people you don’t always see. There is more stress this time of year, traveling takes you out of your element. I watched myself in conversation last week in Ohio - I stayed respectful- but the other person got REALLY heated. It only takes one to have a conscious conversation. Still I immediately felt energy drain and saw how engaging this person on hot topics is not a good idea. Duh! That prompted me to create these tips for YOU on setting boundaries during the holiday season:
Stay away from politics. This is obvious. But if you do talk politics- stay aware- if it gets heated bring in your deep breath. Notice if you are getting angry- if so, slow down. Stop, drop and take several deep breaths. Agree to disagree.
Have a code word with your partner. I turn to my partner and say “Courage” which means I am leaving this conversation and could use emotional backup from him.
Some people enjoy the fight. We all know these. Keep the topics light with them, they feed on negativity and you want to avoid being roped into their drama.
Re-up your time in nature. This is a big one! It may be cold but if you can get outside and ground yourself in nature you can be clearer and more aware and less stressed as you hang with your relatives.
Notice how the other person is only acting from what they know. We all are doing the best we can and only operate from that point. If you send empathy & understanding to the person who is triggered or triggering you, the situation can turn around.
Happy Holiday Boundary Setting!